Take a candy from a baby and they'll scream the house down... and the same pain goes deep into the heart of a human being when something they thought they loved gets wrenched out of their hands too.
I say "thought they loved" because if there's pain in losing something it's a clear indication that love wasn't at the heart of the dynamic, need was.
Addiction to cocaine is a well known pain and withdrawal is awful (so I'm told) That addiction is absolutely identical to the cause of pain.
When a person eats too much and becomes obese is the problem the food they eat or is the real problem what needs they are having met by food?
Without doubt food is a temptation but if nurturing, self love, self respect and belief in ourselves is furnished through the temporary satisfaction of eating a hamburger, don't blame the food giant. Deal with the cause.
The key is to list down what nourishment you are/were getting from that source of pain... the addiction... and then replace it with another source... usually a source more healthy, more on purpose, more linked to your values... this is, in most cases really easy and the more you do it, the faster the pain goes away.
There's a link between dopamine (happy body chemical) and the root source of fulfilment. If we lose dopamine triggers from everyday life we then gravitate down to sex, food, drugs, alcohol, sport, greed and spirituality. These are not wrong it's just that they produce dopamine but lead us off track from the soul purpose of our life. The pain of regret outweighs the pain of discipline and yet, the lack of dopamine leads to the feeling of depression. Nobody enjoys that feeling...
Dopamine is the feel good drug the body produces... it is triggered most when a person's highest values are met... The trouble is that there are two sides to everything and although we might think our values are being met by one association (like a boyfriend and winning lotto) there's a counter balance to that association we also have to deal with. A boyfriend might occupy time, have different ideas, be rude, or dirty and suddenly there's dopamine sometimes and no dopamine (depression) at others. This creates head spin.
If we are all born with a purpose for our life then the ultimate dopamine hit is living it. That's quite a cool idea because purpose never changes, purpose is unachievable (its a journey not a destination) and purpose can be linked to everything from going to the bathroom to leading Virgin Airlines. Purpose is the ultimate dopamine hit... WHY? Because everything that happens in your life can be linked to it for a real feel good experience.
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